Why I didn’t dump him first…and what you could learn from me.

There were many times I wanted to break-up with my ex. I almost feel like I waited for him to do it, because I didn’t have it in me to hurt him. From his woe-is-me stories, he had been bullied in school his whole life. He never had any friends and he did not have a mom growing up, and his dad never showed him much love. He also just came home from the Army after serving in Iraq for 2 years and being dishonorable discharged for something he was very evasive about. I never did learn the whole story with that. I was all he had and he told me everyday. Can you say RED FLAG. Why I didn’t run as fast as I can still amazes me. Yes my head said RUN, but my heart said take care of him, help him he needs you.

This is a top 10 list of warning signs that were there, but that I chose to overlook for some reason I can’t even explain. When I think of these things, I should have ran as fast as I can and never looked back.

#1 THE SEX SUCKED! nuff said! When you want to experiment sexually with your guy and he says “baby that’s what sluts do” about anything sexual RUN and RUN fast. No man in love or otherwise will turn down any suggestion you have for sex trust me. Unless they are gay or bi or can only get turned on by fucking couples<—(this is a whole other story not for this post.)

#2 When he has no friends BIG RED FLAG because then you are suppose to have no friends either….duh RUN.

#3 When you go to get your tire changed and they discover a GPS device under your car. “Baby I put that there in case the car gets robbed” umm ok what are you Lojack! RUN

#4 He latches on to you like a tick on a labrador. When the guy can’t be without you it’s a RED FLAG, you may think its sweet at first, but trust me you will feel suffocated eventually.

#5 When he does not like your friends and he tolerates your family RUN as fast as you can.

#6 If he checks himself out in the mirror more than you RUN girl RUN.

#7 If he compares you to anybody. As in you can’t expect me to be as attracted to you as girls my age. Umm yeah I can we do live together.RUN  RUN RUN. After this one he threw himself on the floor and begged me not to leave him insisting that was not what he said!!

#8 He lets you pay his bills for him because he lost his job and seems to be fine with your offer to do so. It’s great to be able to afford to help the person you care about, but if they seem too comfortable like it was expected, RUN girl RUN.

#9 He thinks he is better looking and smarter then everybody else. Seriously you need to wake up and just RUN fast! When a man is conceded it is such a turnoff . It’s fine to joke around or to be confident, but when they really think they are the shizz, RUN girl RUN.

#10 If you find your guy flirting online at all GRAB HIS SHIT AND THROW IS ASS OUT THE DOOR, and then RUN!! When this happened he literally slept outside the door to prove how much he loved me. He begged me not leave him and stated I am not signing the divorce papers!… umm we only live together.

There were so many RED FLAGS these are just my top 10. At the end of the day I couldn’t break his heart, so I let him break mine instead.

The best part of all of this is anyone after him, and I mean anyone has been better than him 🙂

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19 Responses to “Why I didn’t dump him first…and what you could learn from me.”

  1. Wow! You’re so right about those red flags! Well being able to identify them now is a lesson well learnt …despite the heartbreak.

    Great post! It makes me wonder what I missed. But can I just say, the begging and the big hopeless apologies after making big mistakes, I’ve seen them too.

  2. I think you’re right :D. I’ll try giving it a shot. It might open my eyes

  3. All the same red flags for me, too! The biggest reg flag for me was when I would talk about how much I loved my son and how lovable my son was. My X would get really annoyed and say, “Oh, God! Not everyone loves your son.” Hmmmm? Is that what I was saying, that everyone loves my son? No. I was saying how much I loved my son. Me. I love my son. 🙂

  4. In my experience the line “That’s what sluts do” is usually followed immediately by the word “yipppeee!”

    • sexandmiami Says:

      Yes lmao and trust me it was not anything that 2 people in love would not do.

      • I see it as a priceless opportunity to learn, at the very least 🙂

      • sexandmiami Says:

        You are too funny yes exactly. When you love someone, Supposedly that is. everything should be thought of as special or passion not slutty. Am I wrong? I mean this was only my 2nd serious relationship so maybe I am wrong. lol

  5. Very accurate. They are all true.

  6. LOL!! I couldn’t help but laugh, even though I’ve been through some of these red flags too and I know there’s nothing funny about them!! Whatta stupid bastard *grr*

  7. “That’s what sluts do” line is too funny..i understand not being comfortable with somethings but to use that type of line clearly states he is immature

    • LOL if you only knew ,it was really was nothing crazy at all that what is funny about it . lol 🙂 He was timid with me yet I found out he was on every sexsite known to man . Ummm lol

  8. Really enjoyed reading this! The GPS post was hilarious! Huge red flag! And the no friends, so true.. i never thought of that point till I read it here. Well done, and I’m looking forward to/hoping for another “RED FLAGS” post!

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